FIND YOUR DESTINY/CALLING

How many of us know exactly what our God given destiny is? And how many of us are actually walking in that destiny? I heard someone make a statement the other day that touched me. She said, “The graves are filled with people who died with unfulfilled destinies”.
 So many times we hear the saying “The good die young”. I ask myself, “Did those people actually fulfill their destinies or where they in the middle of walking into their destinies or did they ever come to a realization of what their destinies were?” 

Some people ask me, “How do I discover my destiny?” Others ask, “What is my calling in this life?” If you are asking yourself any of these questions, start by thinking about all the things you love to do. What is that burden in your heart? What can you see yourself getting up every day to do and it would not seem to you like work? Mind you, anything worth doing is worth working hard for. What is that one thing that even when circumstances appear unfavorable and the terrain becomes difficult to navigate you would not mind doing? WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU WERE BORN TO DO?

Now I believe that there is a place for everyone in this world. Jesus knew exactly what his calling to this earth was. And He came and carried out his destiny and He was gone. DESTINY FULFILLED!

DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM???

I wanted to share with you the thoughts that has been in my head since I started this journey!!

BE STRONG AND COURAGEOUS!

I remember when I was preparing to speak out about the abuse I suffered as a child, I was very afraid. I was worried about what my family’s reaction was going to be. How was I going to approach any subject related to my abuse? I did not know what to expect but I understood human nature and sometimes it can be very cruel. Of course when I did come out with my story, I felt resistance from many different sources.
My family for the most part was supportive even though I did face a little resistance. I had people tell me that I should not be talking about such a topic especially being a young woman because now I would appear tainted. I thought to myself, “I have been tainted since I was 6 so what would be the difference now?” I had someone tell me, “Now no man is going to marry you because of your past”. Put it this way, I have been told so many hurtful things in my life and I had to pray hard for God to heal my heart and allow me not to hold grudges against some of those people. They knew no better.
As I was going through my spiritual and emotional awakening, I discovered Joshua in the Bible. Joshua was taking over from were Moses had left off. His mission was to take the children of Israel across the Red Sea. In Joshua chapter 1 verse 6, God reminds Joshua to “Be strong and courageous”. Three times He reminds him to be strong and courageous. God knew the task at hand was not going to be an easy one for Joshua.

Trusting God foolishly and unapologetically!

       Trusting God is something I know so well but did so little of until this present time in my life. I gave my life to Christ when I was 11. From that age up until around about 14 yrs I was committed and unadulterated when it came to my relationship with him. God has always showed himself to me answering my prayer even at that young age. Somewhere along the line I lost my focus on him and everything else in the world seem more important that nourishing my relationship with him. I have always had a burning desire to serve him in boldness and in truth, but I always got side tracked. I am sharing this with you just to encourage you to stand strong in your faith, link up with like minded people so that way you always have encouragement when your faith starts to waver. I am growing into a space in my life where I am learning to trust God foolishly (something I learned from a friend). Letting go, and allowing 100% control of my life to God knowing he will take care of me, and he will never fail me. Truth is this adds to the list of the one of the hardest things I have to learn while on my Journey. I know that God will never forsake me so, why should I worry about tomorrow. His word reminds us that if the birds do not worry how they are going to feed how much more us that were created in his image. Much to be said about that, but I just wanted to encourage you as am learning more and more about me. I realized that I am nothing without God and I am dedicated to serve him foolishly and unapologetically!  

Until next time….

Peace, Love, and Hair Grease!!! #ROCKSTEADY!!!!

CHECK YOURSELF!!!

     

  I have always had struggles in my life and I almost accepted that I was meant to struggle. I did not know that the struggles in my past were linked to me doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results (insanity). I would get into relationships hoping to find a piece of me that was missing only to end up heartbroken, and blame the other person for the demise of the relationship. You cannot expect someone to complete you if you are not in yourself. You cannot expect to find your true self in a relationship. You have to be willing to do the work on your own before you get into a relationship. One of the reasons many relationships fail is because we expect the other person to pick up the slack of us being mediocre. We bring our insecurities into the relationship. Relationships are full of baggages from our past, patterns that we inherited from our parents.  We expect our partners to fill the void left by an absentee parent or the love we lacked has children. Some of us were abuse and or neglected. Our parents or caretaker did not create an environment where we felt protected or celebrated. Instead what we got were constant put downs, telling us what they wanted us to be, what we were not, constant comparisons to our peers, how much better our peers are doing,  lack of encouragement, negative motivations. Some of us were not even wanted or cared for my one or both of our parents. So as adults we look for what we did not get in others, some of us vow to never treat others the way we were treated yet we end up behaving exactly like our parents. We either build fences to keep people out or we let all kinds of people in who will hurt or damage us even more, so you see the cycle continues! Then we procreate and the patterns continue from generation to generation. To bring this home I am going to refer to a bible story to illustrate generational patterns. This is the pattern of rejection (Learned from the book “you are what you think”)

      I am reminded of a story I read recently about how patterns take shape in the family. This story is about Abraham, Isaac and Jacob and their respective sons.

When Sarah was unable to bear a son for Abraham he was given Hagar the maid who bore him a son named Ishmael. Later on Sarah bore a son named Isaac. Because Sarah felt threaten by fact that Ishmael was born to Abraham. She forced Abraham to send Ishmael and his mother away. Ishmael was therefore rejected and sent way by this father.  Isaac had Esau and Jacob, Isaac, favored Esau over Jacob while Rebecca favored Jacob. Esau sold his birth right and also lost his blessing from his father. After all was said and done Jacob was sent away for his protection from Esau. So rejection comes into play again.  Jacob decided to get married he asked Laban for Rachel but he was given Leah. Jacob rejected Leah in favor of Rachel. He was willing to work several more years for Rachel. Even though Leah had many sons for Jacob he was not moved instead when Rachel finally bore him a son named Joseph, Jacob favored Joseph over all is other sons and showed him favoritism. Jacobs’s treatment of Joseph did not seat well with his brothers so his brothers rejected him Joseph was later rejected by his brothers and sold into slavery.

So you see the patterns of rejection in the three generation of Abraham’s family.

What patterns exist in your family? Look back at your parents and their parents you might be surprise to see what patterns were form and how those patterns are affecting your life today?

Until next time….

Love peace and hair grease. #ROCKSTEADY!!!

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