IN DUE TIME!

I write not only to encourage you but also to encourage myself and remain in my faith and trust in the Lord and in His perfect timing.

It is extremely hard to see God’s hands in the midst of our trials and tribulation but we must stand firm and hold on to His promises that he will never forsake us even though on the surface and around us it may appear everything has gone wrong and we cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. No matter how hard we try, nothing seems to be coming together. Your family and friends have all forsaken you and your spirit is in a constant state of brokenness.  You are always on the verge of tears. This is the point where you need to dig deeper and do whatever is necessary for you to maintain your sanity and not lose your faith.

                Remember Job in his many afflictions? How through it all he kept his eyes on God? Like I said earlier, when I write these words I am talking to myself as well as to you. If I could write everything I am going through right now as I write, you would wonder how I am able to maintain my sanity and trust in God.  We have a tendency to look around for help and try to work things out on our own when God just wants us to look to him. Job had every reason to turn his eyes away from God after all he lost everything and was in pain. Yes, he wallowed in self pity but he did not allow it to overcome his entire being. When he realized what he was doing, he got right back to God and he knew that in due time God was going to restore him. Even with the negative motivators in his life, he refused to curse God. Deep inside him he knew where his help was coming from. In God’s time, Job was restored to an even greater state than he was before his troubles.  His affliction became a thing of the past.

A Mother's Love

Mother and son!!

This week I decided to celebrate family.  One thing I do know is the love I have for my family, and that

 love has always been given freely. So today I decided to celebrate the love I see between my mother

and her youngest child. Do not be mistaken; my mother loves all five of her children, but the bond she

has with my little brother is like no other. So here goes!

This love tells a true story of an unconditional love the attachment that a mother has with her last born son that God forbid if anything ever happened to him, the mother would be more than heartbroken. This love tells of a love so great that through it, God healed all of the boy’s so called disabilities. You see this boy was born prematurely, and the doctors said he would have so many problems. Basically, he was written off by the doctors. They said he might not walk, he might not talk, and he would not grow very tall. At best he would be lucky to grow to 5 feet. The boy was always sick, in and out of the hospital he went for doctors’ visits. At one point, he wore leg braces, had chronic asthma attacks, and underwent speech and physical therapy. Of course, I will not fail to mention the late night tarries whenever he was sick. You see, his mother was willing to sacrifice her life to make sure her little boy would grow up to be normal just like the rest of her children. She loved him so much that she named him after her own father. It was almost as if her son was her father reincarnated. It felt like her father’s spirit came back to comfort her through her precious little boy. The little boy equally loved the grandfather he never met but cherished him through stories told to him by his mother and older siblings. It felt like his grandfather’s soul was wrapped around him because sometimes he would cry for him wishing he had known him like his older siblings. Mother and son were so close that the most amazing thing always happened when mother was away. Her son would get a fever and get so sick that the only thing that would make him better was when his mother came back home. Instantly he would be well again appearing as if he had not been sick. The little boy needed his mother so much you would think she was the air he breathed and his was all the love she needed.

Today this not so little boy is 15 years old, stands at 6 feet 7 inches, wears size 16 shoes, and is well read and well spoken. Extremely talented, I call him a genius. He is respectful and is growing up to be a very handsome young man. I am very proud to call him my little big brother. Most of all, he is still very close to his mother and the both of them share a very special bond.
There is nothing like love within a family. Take the time to celebrate your family!!!
Until Next time,
Peace, Love and Hair Grease!
#Rocksteady!!

FIND YOUR DESTINY/CALLING

How many of us know exactly what our God given destiny is? And how many of us are actually walking in that destiny? I heard someone make a statement the other day that touched me. She said, “The graves are filled with people who died with unfulfilled destinies”.
 So many times we hear the saying “The good die young”. I ask myself, “Did those people actually fulfill their destinies or where they in the middle of walking into their destinies or did they ever come to a realization of what their destinies were?” 

Some people ask me, “How do I discover my destiny?” Others ask, “What is my calling in this life?” If you are asking yourself any of these questions, start by thinking about all the things you love to do. What is that burden in your heart? What can you see yourself getting up every day to do and it would not seem to you like work? Mind you, anything worth doing is worth working hard for. What is that one thing that even when circumstances appear unfavorable and the terrain becomes difficult to navigate you would not mind doing? WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU WERE BORN TO DO?

Now I believe that there is a place for everyone in this world. Jesus knew exactly what his calling to this earth was. And He came and carried out his destiny and He was gone. DESTINY FULFILLED!

DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM???

I wanted to share with you the thoughts that has been in my head since I started this journey!!

BE STRONG AND COURAGEOUS!

I remember when I was preparing to speak out about the abuse I suffered as a child, I was very afraid. I was worried about what my family’s reaction was going to be. How was I going to approach any subject related to my abuse? I did not know what to expect but I understood human nature and sometimes it can be very cruel. Of course when I did come out with my story, I felt resistance from many different sources.
My family for the most part was supportive even though I did face a little resistance. I had people tell me that I should not be talking about such a topic especially being a young woman because now I would appear tainted. I thought to myself, “I have been tainted since I was 6 so what would be the difference now?” I had someone tell me, “Now no man is going to marry you because of your past”. Put it this way, I have been told so many hurtful things in my life and I had to pray hard for God to heal my heart and allow me not to hold grudges against some of those people. They knew no better.
As I was going through my spiritual and emotional awakening, I discovered Joshua in the Bible. Joshua was taking over from were Moses had left off. His mission was to take the children of Israel across the Red Sea. In Joshua chapter 1 verse 6, God reminds Joshua to “Be strong and courageous”. Three times He reminds him to be strong and courageous. God knew the task at hand was not going to be an easy one for Joshua.

Trusting God foolishly and unapologetically!

       Trusting God is something I know so well but did so little of until this present time in my life. I gave my life to Christ when I was 11. From that age up until around about 14 yrs I was committed and unadulterated when it came to my relationship with him. God has always showed himself to me answering my prayer even at that young age. Somewhere along the line I lost my focus on him and everything else in the world seem more important that nourishing my relationship with him. I have always had a burning desire to serve him in boldness and in truth, but I always got side tracked. I am sharing this with you just to encourage you to stand strong in your faith, link up with like minded people so that way you always have encouragement when your faith starts to waver. I am growing into a space in my life where I am learning to trust God foolishly (something I learned from a friend). Letting go, and allowing 100% control of my life to God knowing he will take care of me, and he will never fail me. Truth is this adds to the list of the one of the hardest things I have to learn while on my Journey. I know that God will never forsake me so, why should I worry about tomorrow. His word reminds us that if the birds do not worry how they are going to feed how much more us that were created in his image. Much to be said about that, but I just wanted to encourage you as am learning more and more about me. I realized that I am nothing without God and I am dedicated to serve him foolishly and unapologetically!  

Until next time….

Peace, Love, and Hair Grease!!! #ROCKSTEADY!!!!

CHECK YOURSELF!!!

     

  I have always had struggles in my life and I almost accepted that I was meant to struggle. I did not know that the struggles in my past were linked to me doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results (insanity). I would get into relationships hoping to find a piece of me that was missing only to end up heartbroken, and blame the other person for the demise of the relationship. You cannot expect someone to complete you if you are not in yourself. You cannot expect to find your true self in a relationship. You have to be willing to do the work on your own before you get into a relationship. One of the reasons many relationships fail is because we expect the other person to pick up the slack of us being mediocre. We bring our insecurities into the relationship. Relationships are full of baggages from our past, patterns that we inherited from our parents.  We expect our partners to fill the void left by an absentee parent or the love we lacked has children. Some of us were abuse and or neglected. Our parents or caretaker did not create an environment where we felt protected or celebrated. Instead what we got were constant put downs, telling us what they wanted us to be, what we were not, constant comparisons to our peers, how much better our peers are doing,  lack of encouragement, negative motivations. Some of us were not even wanted or cared for my one or both of our parents. So as adults we look for what we did not get in others, some of us vow to never treat others the way we were treated yet we end up behaving exactly like our parents. We either build fences to keep people out or we let all kinds of people in who will hurt or damage us even more, so you see the cycle continues! Then we procreate and the patterns continue from generation to generation. To bring this home I am going to refer to a bible story to illustrate generational patterns. This is the pattern of rejection (Learned from the book “you are what you think”)

      I am reminded of a story I read recently about how patterns take shape in the family. This story is about Abraham, Isaac and Jacob and their respective sons.

When Sarah was unable to bear a son for Abraham he was given Hagar the maid who bore him a son named Ishmael. Later on Sarah bore a son named Isaac. Because Sarah felt threaten by fact that Ishmael was born to Abraham. She forced Abraham to send Ishmael and his mother away. Ishmael was therefore rejected and sent way by this father.  Isaac had Esau and Jacob, Isaac, favored Esau over Jacob while Rebecca favored Jacob. Esau sold his birth right and also lost his blessing from his father. After all was said and done Jacob was sent away for his protection from Esau. So rejection comes into play again.  Jacob decided to get married he asked Laban for Rachel but he was given Leah. Jacob rejected Leah in favor of Rachel. He was willing to work several more years for Rachel. Even though Leah had many sons for Jacob he was not moved instead when Rachel finally bore him a son named Joseph, Jacob favored Joseph over all is other sons and showed him favoritism. Jacobs’s treatment of Joseph did not seat well with his brothers so his brothers rejected him Joseph was later rejected by his brothers and sold into slavery.

So you see the patterns of rejection in the three generation of Abraham’s family.

What patterns exist in your family? Look back at your parents and their parents you might be surprise to see what patterns were form and how those patterns are affecting your life today?

Until next time….

Love peace and hair grease. #ROCKSTEADY!!!

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ROAD LESS TRAVELLED

THIS IS HOW I DREAM!

HELLO WORLD! As you can see, it has been a long time since I blogged.  So I would like to apologize to my readers for not updating. You see I have been continuing “"My Journey Through therapy" , doing a lot of soul searching, purging myself of toxic relationships, and working on my relationship with God. (Without God I am nothing)

Soul searching has been the hardest thing I have ever had to do because it requires me to actually take a hard long look at my soul and admit shortcomings, deal with the demons of my past, and in the process eliminate those cycles of life that I have been dealing with over and over again without any results. This past couple of months felt like I have been going through the fiery furnace. I set some goals for myself and I am surely accomplishing those goals.          

Learning and growing is a lifelong process and we must seek out knowledge. Learning about me has been terrifying. I lost count of how many crying days and nights I have had. It has been times when I cried everyday for week at a time because I learned something new about myself, and the dynamics surrounding either my past or my present situations. I have let go of people I thought I loved so deeply that it hurt me at the time to be without them. I let go because of the toxicity and drama they brought to my life masquerading as love and understanding. I finally realize that I cannot expect ANYONE TO SEE ME FOR WHO I AM IF I DO NOT SEE MYSELF THE WAY GOD SEE ME!!!!

The best part of this journey is learning to finally accept who God created me to be instead of masquerading in mediocrity AND ALLOWING OTHER TO DICTATE FOR ME HOW I SHOULD BEHAVE, HOW I SHOULD FEEL, AND HOW I SHOULD SEE MYSELF!

I am going to keep this post short, but trust me I have plenty to say so expect to see regular updates!

PEACE LOVE AND HAIR GREASE!! #ROCKSTEADY!!!

NO EXCUSES

ALL I CAN SAY IS WOW!!! I WAS UP LATE TROLLING THE WEB LOOKING FOR INSPIRATION AND DOING MY USUAL RESEARCH GUESS WHAT I FOUND???

P.S. LISTEN TO IT ALL THE WAY THROUGH IT WILL BLESS YOU..I PROMISE..

#ROCKSTEADY!!!

I CANNOT STOP!!!!!!!

As some of you know this past few months has been very hard for me after the accident and other life conditions that I have been going through. Today as I was on my way from work I started thinking about what my motivation is? What keeps me going when putting one foot in front of the other gets hard, or when I start having out of body experiences of just giving up and staying in bed till I decompose?

The first thing that came to my mind is my trust in God. I believe that God put me on this earth for a purpose, and that purpose must be fulfilled regardless of what hard times I go through. I feel like my experiences are stories that will help many people because I can say to them I have been there, I know what it feels like, and this is how I overcame my obstacles. Another thing that keeps me going is my family who never let me give up, no matter how many times I cry, and say it’s too hard. They allow me to vent then instruct me to pick myself up and keep going. (Notice I said instruct) #there is nothing like family love…. They do not allow me to dwell in mediocrity. (Thanks Cousin for that one) this list also includes my friends who continue to encourage me and listen to me vent and still believe in my vision and help me however they can.

Aside from God, my family and friends, MUSIC plays a very big part of keeping me going. It might sound crazy but I heard this song by Nikki Minaj and Rihanna “I came to fly” that’s the song that gets me out of bed when my body is failing me. Beyonce’s “ I was here” keeps me focus on the vision God gave me, and Rick Ross “ Everyday I’m Hustling”  reminds me that I need to get money. #dontjudgeme!!!LOL.  Anyways, everybody has those things that push them to keep going but for me these things are working for me right now.

Remember when discouragement sets in find something or someone that will encourage you and uplift you to keep you going. We all need people do not think you are on your journey alone. God did not put all these things and people on earth for nothing take advantage of them. If all else fails I am here for you. REACH OUT!!! Inbox me!!

Peace love and hair grease!!

SMOOTH ROCKY ROAD!!

Hello world!!!! I am Baaccckkkkkkk!!! I know you missed me!!!

I am going to skip the entire New Year jumble because by now you have probably heard enough! I am however going to tell you how 2011 started and ended for me. It was not all bad but the bad were not so good and the good was great! Most of you that know me personally knew that I started 2011 ending a relationship that I thought was going to last forever. Like that song by Keith Sweat “Make it last Forever” yada yada yada!

     Well so on my road to recovery from that I found my destiny. “CAPIOR” Child Abuse Preventions Is Our Responsibility” doors began to open for me next thing I knew I was in Nigeria setting up an NGO, still “WIP” Work In Progress”. I met some great people while I was there and also reunited with family members and said prayers and visited the ones I lost over the years! Their memories still linger forever! #moment of silence! Ok moving right along, I came back to the states and a series of unfortunates events begin to occur some I am not going to list here , but a week before my November 30^th birthday. I was involved in an automobile accident due to the extreme negligence of another driver who rammed my car from the back while going in high speed. Long story short my car was a total lost and I was injured enough to alter my daily life. Since then I have had to learn to ride the bus and walk something I have not had to do since I was maybe 14yr old. Even walking is painful but I have to grit my teeth, take deep breaths and keep walking. After all I do not have a magic carpet to take me around. I am the type of person who likes to just get up and go without having to be on somebody else’s time. I have had to learn to rely on others. Thanks to everyone who has made time out of their schedule to check on me or offer any kind of help.

     I guess God wanted me to slow down BIG time! All this time I had on my hand, to catch the bus to work or to see the Doctor, brought me fresh ideas of how I will add to the transformation of my life. I have several projects in the works right now and when the time is right it will be launched so keep me in your prayers. I am not saying I took all this in stride, I have had my crying days and days that I didn’t want to get up and do it another day ,but through the strength and the will of God for my life I got up and kept moving. The best part of this journey has been the great support from my wonderful family and friends in my life. One of my biggest encourager and cousin says it best “Finding possibilities within limitations”. I said all that to say 2012 started a bit rocky but slowly and steadily it is shaping up to be the year my life will be transformed forever.

Never ever ever ever ever give up!!!!I am now a firm believer that every disappointment has a blessing in store. You just have to keep pushing, the rainbow is within reach!

P.S. I miss blogging though I have been blogging in my head so back to putting it on the screen.

Peace, Love and Hair grease!!!!